Right now my College/20's role is mostly about making small talk with students before and after meetings and being available to them when they want to go deeper than that. I host a monthly game night that attracts my geek brothers from that group, and some good relationships have formed over the years. But it's slow going and depends largely on how deep they want to go with me. So most of my time with them is filled with small talk. I can do small talk, but it takes a lot of effort, especially if I share few common interests with the person I'm talking to.
I'm feeling drawn toward something that includes an element of play (maybe a hang out night once a month) but is largely a more intentional setting, like a weekly small group Bible study where I can engage a bit more as a teacher/mentor. I've been getting confirmation from church leadership a few times in recent years that teaching seems to be a developing gift of mine, so it seems appropriate to head more in that direction. Given that I'm older (but not too much older) than guys in their 20's and still love a lot of the same entertainment 20 something guys enjoy, I think I'm a good fit as a mentor for that group. (I think that entertainment is a great starting point and common ground for building relationships and hope to build a greater value for "play" at our church.) There isn't currently a role that would be described as "mentor to 20-something guys", but the Men's Ministry is getting a fresh look from new leadership and I'm hoping I can create some kind of role for myself that will fit with their goals as well as with my strengths and passions.
All this pondering made me realize this is a worthwhile topic for all of us to think about.
So here are my questions for you:
If you are serving in your church, what connections, if any, do you see between what you are doing and how you are wired or gifted?
If you are not serving in your church, or feel like your current fit is not the best, what existing or as yet uncreated role do you imagine might be a good fit for you?
Maybe we can brainstorm with each other a bit to help get us all connected with our churches in ways that are both more fulfilling and more fruitful!